Have Even Better Orgasms

1. Use your mouth
No, not like that (although, yes, that will work too). Using your words to guide your partner to your sweet spot is not only practical, but both giving and receiving a heaping dose of hot verbal in the bedroom can up the sexy scale for most people. Especially if you’re not used to a lot of dirty talk, starting out in this gently directive way is an easy course to ease into the habit. And believe me; it’s worth the bit of beginner’s awkwardness.

2. Practice by yourself
I’m of the belief that no one ever had an orgasm with a partner without first having many by themselves. Most of the time, this is kind of “duh” moment, as the majority of us were getting ourselves off long before we even knew how to carry on a coherent conversation with someone we were attracted to. But believe it or not, there are plenty of people for whom masturbation is an anomaly.
Don’t fear, friends. We welcome you to the fold. It’s a marvelous existence. There are endless websites and advice articles out there about how to properly push your own buttons. So get busy with yourself and watch how it positively affects your love life with a partner.

3. Seek a thrill
I’m not talking bedroom innuendo here. I mean in real, clothed life, go find something to do that gets your blood pumping. And if you can do that something with the person you like to do something in bed with, then even better.
Activities like bungee jumping, skydiving and white water rafting release chemicals into your body that mimic those released during orgasm. Getting your blood pumping (especially together) gets you primed and ready to initiate some screaming of your own back at home.

4. Start foreplay early
As in, before you’re even together. Technology now has the ability to have two people communicative joined at the hip 24/7. And while I don’t really think this is the healthiest thing most of the time in relationships, when it comes to getting naughty, it can be quite handy.
If you know your lover is stuck late at work or in traffic but will be with you at some point, sending a few R-rated text messages or emails is a fun way to get the party started early. By the time they get to you, they will have already gotten the message loud and clear what you’re in the mood for.

5. Check your medicine cabinet
One of the lesser-known and more frustrating sides of taking certain medications, including a lot of anti-depressants, is their knack for keeping you from sexual sublimation. If you suspect this might be the case, talk to your doctor about some options.

6. Breathe, baby!
Not to get all new-age-y on you guys, but channeling your sexual energy into your breathing might be the thing to get your to that new highest peak. Try synchronizing your energy level and breathing pattern with your partner and slowly climb to the pleasure point together.

7. Do your exercises
Gals, if you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a million times: if you want mind-blowing orgasms, you got to work for it. Namely, in the form of exercising your Hegel muscles. If you are one of the few who don’t yet know what these are, simply locate them by forcing yourself to stop peeing mid-stream. Got it? Not keep them in tip-top shape by clenching, holding, and releasing these same muscles at a few points every day. It won’t take long to start noticing a difference in the intensity of your orgasms.